Off with the old, on with the new
Changing clothes
Picture the first thing you do most mornings, before you are fully awake: you choose what to wear, and you take off what you slept in. Paul reaches for that ordinary act to describe the reoriented life. He pictures the old self as a filthy, worn-out garment gone foul, and tells you to take it off, deliberately, the way you strip off clothes you would not be seen in. Then put on the new self, like clean clothing pulled fresh over your head. Notice the verbs. They are active and they are yours: put off, put on. He is not describing something that happens to you while you wait passively for transformation to arrive. He is describing a daily, hands-on exchange. You name the old garment you keep reaching for out of habit, and you take it off. You put on the new one in its place. And the new self is not something you stitch together by your own design; it is, he says, a self steadily being remade to match the likeness of its Creator. You are not inventing a costume. You are putting on the person you are being made into. New bearings, it turns out, require new clothes, chosen, consciously, one morning at a time.
“Put away, as concerning your former way of life, the old self that grows corrupt after the lusts of deceit, and put on the new self.”
— Paul, to the Ephesians — Ephesians 4:22-24 (WEB)
“You have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its Creator.”
Here is the part that catches people off guard: the new self does not get put on by itself. You can want it badly and still drift along in the old garment for years, waiting for some transformation to descend and dress you while you sleep. Paul will not let you wait like that. He makes it a deliberate act, as deliberate as dressing. So get specific, the way you are about clothes. Name the old garment you keep reaching for on instinct, the one gone foul without your quite noticing: the old flash of anger, the old reflex of fear, the old habit you slip back into when you are tired. See it for the worn-out thing it is. Then take it off, on purpose. And do not stand there half-dressed; put on the new in its place, the specific new response, the truer pattern, the renewed identity being remade in you. Reorientation is not one dramatic costume change. It is built quietly, one of these exchanges at a time, most mornings, on purpose, until the new clothes stop feeling borrowed and start feeling like yours.